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How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

If you’ve already thought it through and have come to the conclusion that you truly want to get back with your ex girlfriend, then you are in the RIGHT PLACE! I have gathered some of the best tips, tricks and strategies from the top relationship experts to help you learn what it will take for you to get your ex girlfriend back.

The advice on this page has literally helped tens of thousands of men from all over the world get their ex girlfriend back, and the success rates are staggering!

What I have learned in pursuit of winning back my own girlfriend, is that it’s never too late to get her back regardless of how awful your breakup was or how bad your current circumstances are. All you need is absolute assurance that you truly love her and want to be with her and that you will do whatever it takes to win her back.

If that’s where your mind is, I’m happy to announce you have a fighters chance to make this relationship work. Before you read on, watch this next video to understand more about what strategy you need to take and what you need to do to start winning her love back tonight…

Most guys don’t need their hand held to guide them back with their ex. They know their girl better than anyone else. Regardless, it’s always best to have a better idea on what’s worked historically with women in general to give yourself the best chance possible to get her back. And that is all explained in the video above, so I hope you’ve had a chance to watch it. Here are 4 more tips that can help…

  1. You have to remember that she imagines she is hurting much more than you are. This has to do with the different ways men and women deal with personal struggle, more externally for women and more internally for men. This wall you put up emotionally makes it hard to gauge where you are emotionally and since most men aren’t the best at communicating emotions, any little bit of insight you can share with her will give her more context and help her to see where you are at more clearly.
  2. It basically comes down to trying to simply translate the different emotional languages that you and your ex girlfriend are speaking and find a common emotional language where it is healthy to interact with one another. It’s actually much easier than most of us imagine it to be.
  3. The way in which you approach her is extremely important. If you’ve been in contact then you need to let things be causal for at least a week. Don’t go out of your way to stay in touch with her. You don’t need to be texting her multiple times a day everyday. By no means am I telling you to become standoffish or aloof, the key to making this work fellas is by actually opening up emotionally. Despite what you’ve always heard, been exposed to or expected, a woman really just wants to connect on an emotionally and even spiritual level. To do that you have to be open and forthcoming in your dealings with her.
  4. Keeping the aforementioned in mind, if you approach the process of getting your girlfriend framed around these observations and tips you stand a great chance of making her realize what a good thing the two of you really had; of helping her to remember the things she loved about you. It’s all in the very simple psychological science behind these time-tested methods for bringing true love from the smoldering ashes to it’s beautiful true destiny.

No matter what, it doesn’t really matter how the split happened, whose fault is not important at this point, it doesn’t even really matter how you’ve acted up to this point. Now don’t get me wrong, these are all factors but they are not deal breakers. That’s all I’m saying. If you’ve decided that you truly want your girlfriend back and are prepared to do what it takes to get her back then you’ve come to the right place.

Win Back Your Ex Girlfriend Starting Tonight

There is no time like the present. If you are beyond sure you want your girl back, then by all means let’s start this process tonight!

That being said, it should also be mentioned that if you haven’t given the breakup some time already, it may be in your best interest to do so. Here’s why…

People don’t always think or act at their best being in an unstable emotional state. If you or her are still reeling from the breakup, making a move now could ultimately ruin your chances of ever getting her back.

How Fresh is the Breakup?

If you literally just broke up today or yesterday…or even within the last few weeks, you may still want to give it some time. This may not be what you want to hear (or read), but trust me when I say that if your end goal is to be back with your ex girlfriend and KEEP her back, then seriously give it a month.

This wait time is like a refresh button and it will work wonders for you in the long run. I know it’s tough hanging in there that long, but time is your friend and you’ll just have to will it out. In the mean time you should do everything you can to occupy that time and be productive so you’re not constantly thinking about getting back with her.

If you’ve already given it time and you know that the both of you are in crystal clear, cool, calm and collected state of minds, AND you still want her back, then let’s start planning about your next moves.

How to Get Her Back: Initiate First Contact With a Simple Text Message

Starting tonight, it may be a good idea to send out a feeler text. Nothing over done. You don’t want to send her a multi-text message about how much you’ve missed her and still love her. Please don’t do that! Instead, let’s keep it simple and send something short that draws nothing but a positive emotional response from her.

Only you know her well enough to understand what this text might be. Tell her of something that reminds you of her and would remind her of you in a positive light. Maybe it’s a sushi place that you visited if you both liked to go out to sushi or whatever food you both liked. Or maybe it’s a location like the beach, lake, or river.

Whatever it is, just mention it randomly in text and let her know that it only reminded you of her and that you hope she is doing well.

That’s it!

Now you just wait. Do not keep sending more texts if she doesn’t respond immediately or at all. In fact, if she does reply immediately, there is no rush to respond to her reply either. This is a simple first initiation of contact and you don’t want to overdo it. You’re just putting a feeler text out to let her know very subtly that you still obviously care for her and there are things that remind you of her in a positive light.

If she doesn’t reply at all, wait another week and try again with the same strategy…only something different than the first.

Frequently Asked Questions:

Question: How Do I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back If She Broke Up With Me?

Answer: This is a very complicated question with so many variables. I’d truthfully need answers to questions like; How old is your girlfriend? How long were you dating for? Why did she break up with you?

If your ex girlfriend is 19, you were dating for only 3 months, and she broke up with you because she needs space, I would advise you to go a different direction. She’s young, which means you probably are too. I strongly believe that no one at that age should be smothered by a young relationship. It’s ok to be in a loving relationship and want that, but there is plenty of time to live that part of your life several years down the road. Live life to its fullest and learn about yourself and what this world has to offer you before you go and commit yourself to a girl during these “best years of your life” era. She probably wants that too so you should respect that.

On the other hand, if your ex girl is 30, you were dating for 5 years, and she broke up with you because you haven’t proposed to her, then by all means, chase her with ambitious fervor.

The first step to getting her back when she broke up with her is to figure out why she broke up with you in the first place. Right? You may think you know, but have you really given it enough time to understand and let her reasoning sink in?

When you understand why she let you go, the next thing to ask yourself is, “Does she really deserve me”?

Look, I know how bad a breakup can hurt, how the world feels like it’s coming to an end, and you don’t know how you’ll get on without her. But the truth is that these hurt emotions will subside with time, and if given enough time, you’ll soon realize that the world is large and the universe has much in store for you still.

If she broke up with you, maybe she doesn’t deserve you. Seriously consider moving on.

Question: How Do I Win Her Back Through Text?

Answer: Text messaging, if done correctly, is a very effective way to win back the love of your ex girlfriend.

I say, “if done correctly” because there is a right way and a wrong way to go about this process. I touched on this earlier and it is important to mention this again. Whatever you do, DO NOT overuse text messaging! Especially earlier on after the breakup. This is a big no no.

Be subtle and use it as a means to get your foot in the door again.

Question: How Do I Get Her Back If She Likes Someone Else, Has A New Boyfriend, Or Is Dating Someone Else?

Answer: The biggest thing to keep in mind when you find yourself in this position, is that you don’t want your ex girlfriend and her new boyfriend teaming up on you making you their enemy. If you come out of the blue and tell your ex that you still love her and want her back, her new boy is not going to like this and will do everything in his power to keep both of you apart. The main problem with this is that HE has the inside track to success and not you.

So your whole goal is to move in as slyly and as subtly as possible. Become a caring friend to the both of them and show her how great of a guy you can really be. At that point, you will likely find a moment, an opportunity if you will, to move in and then tell her that you still care for her.

This will of course confuse the heck out of her and put her in an uncomfortable position. But at least she won’t be teaming up with her new guy against you. Since they both respect you at this point, she likely won’t even mention anything to her new boyfriend and will deal with this internally.

Obviously if she has moved on from you, this position is not going to be ideal for you. But I strongly believe that you have the best chance to win her back by moving back into her life as friends with both. Make them truly respect you and see what a great guy you are. Then you can make your move.

Question: How Do I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back After A Long Time?

Answer: If your ex girlfriend has already moved on, see the answer to the question above. If however it’s just been a really long time since you’ve broken up, you guys are both single, and you decide you want her back, here’s how you should approach it…

Approach this objective as an entirely new relationship rather than “getting back together” and continuing something that has been dead for a long time. This is a new beginning for the both of you and you’ll want it to feel that way for her too.

No matter if you had a great relationship back in the day, or if it was just awful, waiting a long time to get back with her is like pushing the ‘reset button’. She may have fond memories or not so fond memories, but the fact that you both are single and it’s been so long since you’ve dated, any negative feelings have had plenty of time to disappear and only the positive memories will last. So use this to your advantage.

I think it is absolutely important that you work to become this girls best friend first, then you can make a move to something more intimate. If you’ve had no contact at all for a year or more, send her a subtle text to move in and see if she wants to catch up over a cup of coffee sometime.

Once your foot is in the door, then move slowly into her life as a great friend and very slowly and subtly show her how great of a guy you’ve become. Then she’ll likely come running back into your arms.

Question: Can I Win Her Back Fast?

Answer: How fast you move is ultimately up to you. Buy you should ask yourself this…are you looking for another roll in the sack, or are you trying to win her love and affection back for good?

Depending how things ended between the two of you, it could seriously take a good amount of time for you to get her back. Time is on your side. It is your greatest friend and greatest asset to lean on when trying to win back her love for good. Keep this in mind and do whatever you need to do to pass this time and deal with your emotions and feelings appropriately.

Your timing will affect everything! Don’t mess this up by moving in too fast.

Question: Is It Possible To Get Back With My Ex Girlfriend After A Really Bad Breakup?

Answer: The short answer here is, yes! Really bad breakups can result from an accumulation of bad feelings piling up and finally reaching a tipping point, or something that just occurs spur of the moment due to someone (or both) overreacting to a particular situation. Overconsumption of alcohol fits into the latter.

Generally, an overreaction type breakup is much easier to come back from because emotions tend to get the best of people. Once cooler heads prevail, it’s easy to both come to the conclusion that the breakup could be the result of heated emotions and the wrong time, wrong place.

On the other hand, if the bad breakup happened because it’s been a long time coming, perhaps you should really sit back and ask yourself if it’s not inevitable that this will happen again. History repeats itself and you should start learning from your mistakes. Especially if this isn’t your first go-around at a bad breakup. You can always learn to talk to other girls and go that route too.

No matter what, give the relationship plenty of time to cool before you even attempt to get it back. If you do rush back into it without really thinking about the causes of the breakup, nothing will ever change.

Question: What Do I Do If She Said She Needs Space?

Answer: If she asks for space, by all means, GIVE HER SOME SPACE!

If she’s asking for space, it’s likely because she feels like the relationship might be holding her back from unknown opportunities. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean she’s looking for another guy. Quite the opposite actually.

Sometimes love can be so strong it can only be compared to an addictive drug. In fact, the love emotion triggers many of the same neurons in the brain that drugs do. It’s possible that she wants to pull herself off of this addiction just to live life independently for awhile.

Or you could be absolutely smothering her by constantly wanting or needing to be around her.

Regardless, give her space when she asks for it. Don’t whine and beg for her to reconsider, and don’t automatically assume your relationship is over either. Giving her space may be the best for the both of you, AND it could ultimately save your relationship and make it stronger in the long run. Be patient.

Question: Can I Still Get Her Back If I Cheated On Her Or She Cheated On Me?

Answer: I know I sound like a broken record when I say there is no circumstance that exists where you don’t have a punchers chance to get your ex back, but I really believe that! However, if you cheated on her or if she cheated on you, you should really, really take the time to think about whether or not this relationship is a good idea.

Cheating on someone breaks any and all of the trust that comes with a relationship. If she is a repeat offender, get out of the relationship. Don’t walk. Run. And don’t look back.

If you are the one doing the cheating, get yourself out of all relationships and just live your life man. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be with other girls. Just do it independently. No need to drag others’ feelings down by making promises you can’t keep and abusing their trust.

If you admittedly screwed up one time and feel you won’t ever do it again, then you’ll have to prove that to her. The only way you will be able to do this is with time and patience. Action always speaks louder than words.

Question: How Do I Get My Ex Girlfriend Back When She Hates Me?

Answer: It boggles my mind just how many times I get asked this question. Hate is such a strong word, so you will, again, need to ask yourself just what it is that you did to cause another human being to hate you.

In the case of your girlfriend breaking up with you and telling you that she hates you, you must’ve really messed things up. The only thing you can do to get her back at this time is to prove with actions, over time, that this mess up was only a minor slip up. A freak of nature type of thing that will never, ever happen again.

You do this by starting tonight. And what you do is offer a sincere, heart warming apology. And then you wait. Do not rush this. Give it a few weeks, then you can send a subtle text message and approach it the same way I mentioned above.

A Personal Message:

I started this site because I know how you feel wanting your boyfriend back and what it is like to lose a girlfriend and just how crushing these feelings are. I only hope the words on this page not only help in winning back your ex girlfriend, but also bring about some comfort in knowing that your overwhelming emotions you are feeling right now will eventually subside. When they do, that is when you are thinking at your best and that is when you will always make the best decisions.

Give it some time. Be patient and smart and things will work out exactly as they should.

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